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Who Would You Be Without Your Story?

Byron Katie so wisely repeatedly asks her clients: “Who would you be without your story?

This question has fascinated me the moment I heard it.

Of course this question can be understood in two ways: One way is who would you be if whatever happened to you in your life (that forms your life story) never happened?

The other meaning is the implication of what kind of person you have become as a result of having experienced your story in your life. In this article, I am using this meaning.

I have dealt with so many people who told me their stories in such heartfelt manner that was bound to capture my listening. Their fears, worries, pains, and memories formed unique constellations of meanings and emotions that demanded my respect and admiration for the strength they did not know they had.

When people talk about their problems, they do not immediately realize that the mere thing that aches them is the source of insight in their lives. The human psyche and brain are two miraculous creatures that are worth nothing but respect.

I see with people shedding their tears over stories that break their hearts. I hear people talk about themselves as if they were inferior or less perfect than others whom they admire. I deal with people who feel deep sadness or shame for leading unproductive lives, and wishing for ones that are more perfect.

I always listen to them with so much respect and say: Who would you be without your story? If you meet someone who is going through exactly the same story, you’d have so much knowledge and support for them, which will help them find solutions, like you did.

Our stories differentiate us and make us unique. Our ways of reacting to them is the signature we leave in this world. Why feel ashamed of it if with the knowledge you got out of it, you can help tens of people going through the same circumstances?

It’s important not to dwell on the past, but to harness the experience you got from it in ways that will help others around you. We all have problems, but the best of us are those who use the seed of knowledge in planting trees, whose fruits can brighten (benefit) other people’s lives.

I always invite people to remember who they really are and who they truly wish to be in this life.

In conclusion, there are two powerful questions that sum up what a person is all about:

What is your story? (Past)


What legacy do you wish to leave in this world? (Future)



Hi, I am Coach Razan Kilani. I am certified by the International Coach Federation as a PCC. I have coached over 35 clients for over 1500 hours. I love my work! It's been such an honor for me to share my clients' lives, troubles, achievements and precious moments. Together, we nurtured their paths and mine towards success and happiness. My job interprets who I am and very much enables me to fulfill my innermost values in life, such as giving, understanding, respecting, caring and going on perseveringly. I established Wisdom Within Consultancy over 6 years ago, and has catered to wide ranges of my clients, of all ages, circumstances, and challenges. At Wisdom Within Consultancy, we offer Emotional Intelligence highly Certified Coaching to individuals and groups, comprising all ages and different fields of work. We coach business groups, yet we do focus on the person interacting in the different aspects of his or her life (parenting, relationship and work). Coach Razan empowers you to achieve goals you have always wanted to achieve, and to overcome obstacles that are hindering your progress in life and work. With over 6 years of international experience, I would love to support you to find your inner voice, and live the life you wish to live, in order to be happy, successful and content. Contact me on and begin your life changing journey! If you feel stuck in any way, then Wisdom Within Coaching can help you. Low self-confidence, work-life balance, emotional intelligence, social anxiety, weight loss, reducing your social and emotional anxiety and stress, improving your or your employees' performance, finding time to meditate or to spend time with your loved ones and if you need help in realizing your dream goals, get the work you want, etc. then please contact us on We can help you get unstuck and move toward the life you really want to live from now on. Join us!

9 thoughts on “Who Would You Be Without Your Story?

  1. I think we are inextricably connected to our stories – and the fascinating way in which we interpret our personal histories. In terms of legacy – for a while I wanted to be remembered in part for breaking the mold of stereotypical HR executives, but as I move farther away from that world, more personal priorities become clearer. To be remembered as one who genuinely tried to treat humanity with care, a mom who adored her children unabashedly and without reservation, as a wife who provided her husband with inestimable love and friendship. A person who valued laughter and never took herself too seriously. As a friend who gave of herself without reservation. And as someone who truly, truly loved the breadth and width of life and remained grateful for all of the blessings I received. I know it sounds corny, and I’m sorry for going on for so long. The question drove the response – and what a wonderful question to pose…

    1. Thanks for this deep and wise reflection!
      I am constantly amazed by what I read from wonderful minds like yours.
      What a noble legacy you are leaving behind! I strongly acknowledging you for consciously choosing your life purpose, and what a purpose it is!
      Thank you and hope you’ll remain a close follower of my blog.

  2. Wonderfully thoughtful post. I tend to think of the events in question as catalysts in which we can choose to become bitter or become better. So much of our life is what we tell ourselves is happening – why not make that story a worthwhile one?

    1. Hey Donnie,
      Thanks for reblogging my post for your readers. Please feel free to do so any time you enjoy any of my writings.
      My blog’s exposure is made better by efforts like yours and those of other active bloggers.
      Many thanks, and hope you keep reading along.

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