I’ve been wondering all day what makes one say “Enough is enough”?
When does one draw the line between what’s been going on in the past and what will happen in the future?
Where does the decisions to stop accepting old patterns, conjure up a long-awaited strength, and look for a better alternative, come from?
Does it come from our hearts, minds or souls? Or is it a mixture of all?
I recall in the past that whenever I didn’t listen to my intuition, which was telling me to do or reject doing something, I always ended up regretting it. Therefore, a long time ago, I learned that whenever there was a contradiction between my heart and mind, to always follow my intuition (i.e. heart or hunch).
The mind can be tricked yet it is there to serve a purpose. Most people across history have believed that emotions are there to delude us; that following them leads to misery. Therefore, mind has always been given the preference and the value to be labelled as ‘the decision-maker’ and the ‘manager’ of everything that has been going on in our brains.
Yet, what is science is proving nowadays is that the most authentic resource of our true preferences towards matters comes from our emotions. They are like miraculously individual inner compasses that are not lured or affected by opinions, appearances, benefits, etc. Each person has an inner compass that points in an independent direction that is not ruled by society or one’s mind. It talks to us through the inner hunches we may experience. That is why it is such a waste of resource and chance for authenticity to ignore those hunches, and follow what you think is ‘logical’, just because your mind is telling you so.
Listening to one’s mind is like relying on a traffic controller to shepherd your thoughts through directions it thinks they logically fit into. However, combining both, emotions and mind power, one can harness two key resources that can best lead us toward what we really want and align them with where we truly wish to go.
Our minds may force us to accept ‘realities’ as a given, and they may lead us to seek and follow a path that deep inside we may not want to be moving in. Our emotions never sleep or lie. They’re always there, and they tell us what our honest attitudes are toward things, yet we mostly choose not to listen to them out of fear to lose our way. Society has created this fear, but has it really allowed us to listen to our own intuition about things? Are we aware enough of our values and life purpose, to an extent where we’d prefer to listen to our inner compasses as opposed to just go with the flow or moving on autopilot?
I believe that no matter how much we may repress our inner hunches (intuition, true selves, etc.), they eventually come forward in a form of rebellion against our own brains and lives. This is where we may choose to draw the line between what we thought was good, and what we really want to be doing instead.
So what do you think? When would you draw the line and decide enough is enough?
We may mistake awareness for being aware of what others have that we don’t, what they do that we do or don’t, or what their lives are like in comparison with ours. Being awareness is not being aware of things ‘outside’ ourselves. Such line of thinking serves to only compare who we are and what we have to standards that are or aren’t met by others. It is like a defensive mechanism, through which we define our understanding of ourselves and our lives from potential losses, threats, failures, or disappointments. So for example, if we are defining our being as someone who has a nice car, great career, wonderful relationship, fun parties, and so on, this is the way we are going to compare ourselves to others who are and have these elements in their lives. These elements – through such definition – become labelled as ‘Happiness-Generating Factors. The problem with this understanding is that it is set outward, and promises to always look outside of ourselves to seek happiness. Therefore, it is like dedicating our lives, time, energy and soul, to walk a long mile that is never-ending in the desert, in promise of a sip of water.
Becoming aware is such a crucial internal process, through which we live our lives and go about choosing our actions. Being aware is understanding the patterns that interpret our connection to the world around us, as well as ourselves (our feelings, beliefs, values, spirit, and body). Total awareness in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs is achieved through self-actualization, the highest level in the hierarchy.
Developing self-awareness is increasing your knowledge of yourself; i.e. forming an understanding of your identify within the world around you. Awareness can be stretched in diverse dimensions. The spiritual dimension is one of them, whereby one connects with their higher self, and feel their connectedness to the universe.
On the bodily level, there is awareness of the physical manifestations of the body, thoughts and feelings. Trying to engage your Self helps you check in regularly on it, which will serve in making you a happier person.
Listening to your Self, body, thoughts, feelings and actions, will help you understand who you are, what you really want in every situation (what choice you want to make), where you want to go, and how you want to be remembered after you pass away.
Awareness is a time and effort-saver that – once ignited – sets you on a voluntary journey toward inner peace and happiness with a no-going-back policy.
Three ways to increase your self awareness on the physical, emotional and spiritual sides:
- Keep checking in with yourself every time you exhibit certain signs of upset, stress, anxiety.
- Get in the habit of celebrating positive emotions and thoughts when they come up.
- Meditate/pray or listen to music while contemplating a positive matter.
Life is so beautiful. It’s about time we took off our sunglasses and saw it for what it really is.