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There’s a saying in the Arabic culture, “Satisfaction is a nonperishable treasure”. The way you see your life has a lot to do with how you are choosing to look at it. If you view it in terms of the suffering, fears, bad memories and terrible incidents that occurred in it, then this is how you are going to judge it.. because you view it from a victim’s point of view. We all have had our shares of sadness, grief, discomfort and hardship. Yet, we may – without knowing so – be luckier than others, if we just can see their miseries.
If you choose to let go of the past, and take responsibility of your life, and your choices of how you want to go about your present (hence) future life, then you are more likely to feel more empowered to lead a life you really want to live.
Dr. Wayne Dyer in the following clip talks about this, and he makes a point that it is all in your hands, and how to be a no-limit person. Check it out:
Change The Way You Think To Feel Better About Your Life
Tell us what you think.
Most of us spend more time complaining than counting the good things about our day, our lives, our spouses, children, work, etc.
What if shifted our thoughts from negative to positive, and started viewing everything in our lives from a positive perspective? Wouldn’t it feel better to do so? What do you realize on your levels of Optimism, Creativity and Love?
Dr. Wayne Dyer talks about the magical effect of changing your life by changing your thoughts on the show with Ellen back in 2008. Check it out:
How do you feel now? What do you take away from this interview? Do you think it works?
Making Time to Spend With Your Husband
By Stephanie Martin | Date Submitted: 05/28/10
Summary: As busy moms we tend to get caught up in our children’s lives putting all of our energy into that, but you also need to remember that there is someone else in your life that craves some one-on-one time with you, and that is your husband.
As busy moms we tend to get caught up in our children’s lives putting all of our energy into that, but you also need to remember that there is someone else in your life that craves some one-on-one time with you, and that is your husband. We, as moms, tend to put all of our energy into planning everyone’s day, making sure everyone makes it to their intended destinations, is picked up, fed, bathed, put to bed, and the house is clean, but we forget to save a little of that energy for our husband. I know that this is the last thing that you want to hear, but hear me out. You not only need to make the time to spend with your husband, but you HAVE to. Remember back to when it was just the two of you, before children, and how much you enjoyed spending time together and just being together. Just because you have children does not mean that you can never have that again. I am here to tell you that you can! But, you really have to make an effort. Here are a few things for you to try:
* Make the kids dinner and put them to bed early. Then, make dinner for you and your husband. It can be the same thing the kids have but spice it up a bit with a pretty tablecloth and a couple of candles. Bring out the “good” dishes and use them. This can make even the simplest dish feel fancy and romantic. Spend time just talking and catching up on each other’s day. Who knows where that will lead?
* Plan a day where you both go for a walk or even go out for dinner together and have someone else watch the kids. Better yet, plan a day where you can both be home while the kids will be at school and just spend time at home. Plan a nice meal and watch that movie that you’ve been wanting to watch but have not had the time.
* Spend time just talking. Sit out on the porch after the kids are in bed each night and just talk. You will be surprised what you can find to talk about that does not pertain to your children. Remember you used to do this before you had children and you can do it again.
* Pick up a card at the store and his favorite candy and lay on his night stand or pillow, or even slip it into his lunch box when he’s not looking. When he finds it, he will know that you are thinking of him and that you love him.
Now, please don’t think that I am perfect and do all of these things all of the time. I am preaching to the choir here. I am just like every mom out there and tend to get wrapped up in daily living and forget the small things, too. But, I can tell you that when I do forget to spend time with my husband, it does show in our relationship. In the same way, when we do take the time to make time to spend together, it also shows. I am very blessed to be married to my best friend for 16 years now, and I pray that God will grant us many more years together. I can honestly say that we are still very much in love and very happily married, but it’s only because we have learned over time to make sure that we take time out for us. No, this is not selfish. It is what helps to strengthen our relationship as husband and wife as well as in mother and father to our children. We try to show our children how important it is in a marriage to make sure that we take time out for each other. They see how much we love each other and how that love spreads to them, because they see that we care enough about each other to make sure that we keep communication lines open between us which helps us to keep communication lines open to them as well. Just like your kitchen is the heart of your home, the love that you share with your husband, which should be second only to God, is also the heart and soul of your family. The love that you demonstrate to each other is the love that your children will demonstrate to others.
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Stephanie Martin, a work-at-home-mom of 2 daughters and 1 son, and the owner and publisher of Busy Moms Online, and site with information for busy moms, and My Country Haven, a blog documented her life living on a farm and their frugal journey of remaining debt free while becoming more self-sufficient.
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The Importance of Spending Time With Your Children
By Stephanie Martin
How many times a day do you catch yourself saying, “not now” or “I don’t have time”? Now, how many times a day do you catch yourself saying this to your children? Too many times we, as busy moms, get caught up in the daily grind of our family’s lives and trying to get everything done that needs to be done, but we forget the real reasons why we’re trying to bake 4 dozen cookies, schedule a doctor’s appointment, make out a grocery list and go to the store, make sure our child’s soccer jersey is clean and ready to go for the game that is scheduled at 5 p.m., have dinner ready before leaving for said soccer game, and squeeze in homework – all before putting our children to bed. Then, we take the next few hours to get caught up on housework such as dishes, laundry, and general tidying up when one of our children, or even your spouse, comes up and reminds you that you have a family get-together the next day that you are supposed to cook 3 dishes for! So, you stay up half the night preparing for the next day knowing that you are going to be completely exhausted but expected to put on a happy face.
Am I exaggerating? Maybe. But there are a lot of moms out there that have extremely full days trying to juggle different sports, sports teams, music lessons, grocery shopping, doctor’s appointments, cooking dinner, and housework, and some while still working a full or part-time job. How in the world do they do it and still find time for their husband and children? Well, there are a lot of times that they do not, not really. They think that by getting their kids involved in many different activities they are doing what is best for their children. They may be, especially if their child(ren) are really good at sports or music, etc. But there are a couple of key elements that tend to be forgotten a lot of times. One-on-one time and spending time together as a family.
I cannot begin to tell you how important it is to take time out to just spend time with your child. If you have more than one child, then you need to spend time with each of them individually. Taking the time to get to really know a child not only helps to boost your child’s moral, but it also helps to bring you closer together. This, in turn, builds strong bonds when that child is out on their own. They will see you not only as their parent, but as close friend and confidant. And, as long as you are honest with them, they will be honest back to you. They will know that they can trust you with problems that they are dealing with and know that you will help them get through them. This also teaches them how to be with other people and, one day, with their own children. They will remember how you took the time to spend with them and get to know them, and they will want to do the same for their children as well.
As for family time, it is another great opportunity to show your children what it means to turn off all the televisions, computer, and game systems. When you do not have any other distractions around, pull out a deck of cards or a favorite board game, plan some favorite snacks for finger foods, and just have fun! You will be surprised what you will learn from your children even while playing a board game. This is another great opportunity to get to know your children. You will see how they interact with others, especially during a competition, and you will see how well they win or lose. If you find the your child is a poor loser, you can take the time to show them (in a gentle, loving way), how to congratulate the winner and show how proud you are of the person that won, but you also show praise to your other children that did not win by praising how well they did play the game and how much fun you had spending that time with them.
What about crafts? Do your children like to make crafts? Keep a craft box handy full of finger paints, tempera paints, popsicle sticks, construction paper, glue, etc., so that they can be as creative as they want. If you are really worried about clean-up, keep some of the $1 plastic tablecloths on hand and tape them down to the table. When they are through, gather it all up and toss it away. Just don’t forget to remove your child’s artwork first so that you don’t throw it away! Label with your child’s name, date, and age so that you will always remember when they made this. I can guarantee you that you will always remember the time that you spent with them make it even if they are too young to remember it themselves. But, they will love hearing you talk about when they are older.
Another great way to spend time together as a family is to go to a local park, or even an amusement park or museum. Talk about all the different things that there are to do or see, and then make sure to do/see everyone’s favorites. Make sure and take the camera along so that you can capture some of these memories for your scrapbook/photo album.
One more great way to spend time together would be to prepare a meal together. Let everyone be in charge of a particular item on the menu. Make sure and supervise smaller children and help them when necessary, even little ones can toss a salad or crack an egg with supervision. Let them measure ingredients out. They really love this and will really feel like they are contributing. It’s been proven that children who help prepare foods will often eat them where as they would not eat them if someone else prepared them.
I hope that this article has inspired you to look at your priorities and make the time to spend with your children. They are only little once, and you will never have this opportunity again.
Stephanie Martin is a work-at-home-mom of 2 daughters and 1 son, and the owner and publisher of Busy Moms Online, a site with information for busy moms, and My Country Haven, a blog documenting her family’s life living on a farm and their frugal journey of remaining debt free while becoming more self-sufficient.
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